Oklahoma, here we come!

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Ever feel like you're making decisions about something that will affect you for the rest of your life?!  Doesn't it seem kind of like you're living in a dream?  Well, last week we purchased our plane tickets, and booked a hotel and rental car for our trip to Oklahoma to meet T. (our birthmom).  It truly is surreal.  I am excited and nervous and worried and happy! :)  I mean, I know in my heart that this meeting will help us to "seal the deal" as we see each other, get to interact face-to-face, and actually see her baby belly (with little Zane inside!).  But I also am preparing myself for the awkwardness that the meeting will bring too.  How do you say, "Thanks for giving me your baby" in a tactful way??!!  We don't want to say anything to turn her off, obviously, but we want to be real and transparent.

We'll be flying out on Thursday August 12th, and then meeting with the attorney on Friday (Aug. 13th - our 5-year anniversary!!) at his office with T. to finalize some paperwork and keep the first meeting sort of official, and allow him to formally introduce us.  Then we will plan on going to lunch or dinner with her (and possibly her friend or stepmom) that day or on Saturday (Aug. 14th).  We will fly back to NC on Saturday.  Hopefully we will get to know Zane's birth-city, Oklahoma City, a little while we're there and pick up some Oklahoma items to include in his nursery & his baby book.

Wondering what to say to her?  Wondering if we should get a picture with her (if she doesn't mind)?  Wondering if we should give her a hug, or just shake her hand??  This is a strange, awkward, yet exciting time in our adoption process.  We would love your thoughts, your prayers, and your suggestions! :) Love you guys!

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  1. MelodyJuly 28, 2010 at 10:58 AM

    I think you will just know all the right things to say and do when the time comes.....God will be with you, just listen to Him and follow His lead...maybe seek out some other parents who have been in same situation; research on internet; talk to adoption agency....Good luck and I'll be praying for you guys during this exciting time!!! Melody!!!

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  2. Kay GJuly 29, 2010 at 12:07 PM

    I agree with Melody. You'll know all the right things to do and say when you see her. God will guide you and put in your heart all the good stuff you need (He's good like that). She will love you immediately and see from the start that you guys will be incredible parents. She is giving her little boy a wonderful gift by giving him to you! A wonderful story for you to pass on to him later. I'm praying BIG for you and for T. Keep us posted on this incredible journey!

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  3. GraceJuly 30, 2010 at 8:22 AM

    Hug her.

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  4. Stately LadyJuly 30, 2010 at 3:01 PM

    Gosh, I am so behind in my blog reading since I started my new job! I am so happy for you both and I can't wait to hear how the meeting goes. I know she, like the rest of us, will immediately feel the love and warmth you both emit naturally. So don't try too hard. You are both sweet as sugar and I'm sure she will know how grateful you are right away!

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